1. Rough sex, DUH. While gentle, sweet lovemaking can certainly be pleasurable, rough sex is definitely up there as some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had. I’m not saying you need to tie each other up or choke each other out (unless that’s what you’re into), but taking out some of that anger by throwing your partner down or against a wall, digging your fingernails into their back, or by sucking a little harder on their neck, can make the sex (and the orgasms) that much more intense and toe-curling. Like Lady Gaga said, “If it isn’t rough, it isn’t fun.”
2. You don’t care what they think. If you really don’t like someone, you probably don’t care what they think of you, or spend time trying to impress them. Because of this carefree mentality, you aren’t going to be preoccupied during the sex about how your body looks at a certain angle, or if your make-up is smudged or sweating off. Such a huge barrier to sexual fulfillment (and achieving orgasm) is when people are too worried and self-conscious about their bodies or appearance to truly enjoy the sex (or get off). When you have sex with someone who doesn’t prevent you from feeling comfortable and confident in yourself and your appearance, you can have the most fulfilling and pleasurable sex possible.
3. You’re not afraid to hurt their feelings. Similar to not being self-conscious, a huge benefit of having hate-sex with someone is the fact that you’re not afraid to say how you feel, or what you really want. Because you already dislike each other, neither of you will be afraid to hurt the other one’s feelings (or ego) by telling them that what they’re doing during sex isn’t working, or by giving them some direction to help you get off. Communication is such an important part of having the hottest and most pleasure-filled sex you can have, so not holding back on what you want to say during hate-sex makes this effortless.
4. It could be the best sex of your life. When you literally cannot stand someone, it’s doubtful that you’ve ever sat around pining for them, or imagining what sex with them would be like. Because you don’t have any preconceived ideas or standards, and probably have never given them the time of day, they could surprise you with what may actually be the best sex of your life. The best sex I’ve had up to this point, was with a guy who a year a go, if you had asked me, I would’ve sworn I wouldn’t touch with a 10-foot pole. But after we had sex, I realized that he was basically my sexual spirit animal (our sexual desires lined up almost identically), and it made it the most fulfilling and pleasurable sex of my life.
5. Hatred fuels passionate sex. When you hate someone, feelings that strong are inevitably charged with passion. When sex is passionate, it can make it the hottest, most exhilarating sexual experience you’ll ever have. Your resentment toward one another will make every kiss, thrust, hair tug, and nibble that much more deliberate and fueled by your frustration as you both use each pleasure-filled motion as a way to get back at each other. So keep the loathing cumming!