5 signs you should break it off with your casual hookup...
1. You only like them when you’re drunk. When you drink, your judgment
is impaired which makes you more likely to lower your standards and go home
with a random guy simply because he bought you a drink. As someone who has had
my fair share of casual hookups after a night of drinking, I’m not saying that
you shouldn’t bring home that cutie from the bar. However, if you’re hooking up
with someone who you literally cannot tolerate when you’re sober, it might be
time to reevaluate. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with only hitting up your
booty call after that fourth tequila shot, but if you find yourself getting
annoyed or repulsed by them as you start sobering up, you should probably move
on to someone else who you can at least enjoy pillow talk with.
2. You don’t enjoy the sex. This reason might seem obvious considering
that most people would probably bail on a casual hookup after the first time if
it were really bad. However, in my own experience and in those of my friends,
I’ve noticed that a lot of us tend to continue having mediocre or bad sex with
our hookups, just because it’s guaranteed sex. (Not to mention the wishful
thinking that maybe the next time will be better.) But when the main point of
having a casual hookup is the sex, you should only be with someone who can
actually get you off. The way I see it, if the sex you’re having with your
casual partner isn’t satisfying you, you either teach them how to get you off,
or cut ‘em lose.
3. It’s emotionally draining. Because we are currently living in a
time of hookup culture, casual sexual relationships are becoming the norm,
especially for those of us in college environments. But just because hooking up
is seen as the standard, doesn’t mean that you should get involved in casual
sexual relationships if you don’t want to. If you are in a casual hookup
situation, and find that you’re constantly upset or unhappy because of its
strictly sexual nature, then that’s a clear way of knowing that you probably
shouldn’t be in it. The point at which it stops being fun, is when you know you
need to end it.
4. You’re trying to distract yourself from someone else. I have had
multiple friends tell me that the best way to get over someone is to go out and
hook up with someone else. Although they have the best intentions, I don’t tend
to agree with my friends on this one. I have had my heart broken several times
and have taken part in multiple rebound-like hookups in hopes of getting over
the guys who had hurt me and to be totally honest, it sucked. While the
attention of a new hookup was temporarily distracting from my heartache, I
found that casually sleeping with guys just to forget about someone else
actually made me think about that person more, and made me wish I was still
having sex with them, and not the random guy from my econ class. You should
only be having casual sex because it’s what you WANT to do. To have it for any
other reason can make it a very miserable experience.
5. You always regret hooking up with them. Although most of us have experienced
that awful feeling of waking up next to someone we didn’t want to, it is a
completely different story to feel regretful after EVERY encounter with your
hookup. Casual sex and hookups are meant to be fun and pleasure-filled for all of
those involved. If you are constantly feeling shame, guilt, or any combination
of negative emotions that make you wish you hadn’t had sex with your partner,
you shouldn’t continue to hook up with them. Regardless of the reason, feeling
regretful after having sex with someone is a huge red flag that you probably
shouldn’t be having it with them, so stop and take some time to figure out what
it is you really want in a hookup or sexual relationship, and then go from
there.